From Don Lemon to a 200-Person Line: Inside DC’s Wild Grindr Party

From Don Lemon to a 200-Person Line: Inside DC’s Wild Grindr Party


Inside Grindr’s first-ever White House Correspondents’ Dinner get together. Photograph courtesy of Tristan Espinoza.

It’s 9 PM on a Friday in late April, and black SUVs are clogging the streets of Georgetown, ferrying company between White House Correspondent Dinner events.

Among them: Grindr’s first-ever WHCD get together, an occasion so broadly publicized that even a pal’s mother in New Jersey texted me the day earlier than to ask if I used to be leaving.

The solely drawback: a whole bunch of individuals could not get in.

By 9:30 PM, it is clear the road—greater than 200 individuals deep, one thing resembling a New York membership—is not shifting. From down the block, a lighted entrance glints as well-known company slip inside, skipping the road and setting off a flurry of onlookers. Among them: journalists Don Lemon and Kaitlan Collins, and the whole TMZ DC crew.

The venue—a home as soon as owned by former Congresswoman and activist Ruth Hanna McCormick—has been remodeled with purple LED strobes and paparazzi flashes leaking out of its home windows.

Whispers ripple by way of the gang: the occasion is at capability. Just a few groans, then a sample—homosexual males peel off from the road, circle again minutes later, and check out to speak their method to the entrance. It does not work.

By 10 PM, the temper begins to shift. “I’m literally yawning already,” somebody behind me says—one among a group of faculty ladies who’ve been ready almost an hour. Neighbors settle onto their stoops to watch, letting their canines out to be a part of the spectacle. One affords $50 to anybody prepared to hop the fence by way of their yard. Another sells $15 photographs. (There is, notably, a purchaser.)

Now there are about 50 individuals forward of me. A lady working the occasion, in a yellow floral gown the colour of lemons, declares it is “one in, one out.” Two graduate college students in entrance of me course—they want they’d listened to their associates already inside, who lined up at 7:30 PM, a full half-hour earlier than doorways opened.

A pair forward of me, sometimes resting their heads on one another’s shoulders, turns round to complain to anybody who will hear. They flew in from New York only for this. His firm, he tells me, would by no means deal with company like this. “We’re much more quiet,” one among them says.

Later, I study he works for an additional relationship app.

Close to 11 PM, I lastly make it to the entrance, the place workers are apologizing for the “delay.” I break free from the Politico reporters I’d been flirting with and racing by way of the door—simply as a hoard of males in SHEIN tank tops and leather-based harnesses streams out previous me.

Inside, black goodie baggage line each desk, every with a hat studying “0 Feet Away,” a nod to Grindr’s proximity-based hookups. Of course, there are traces in all places: for the bar, the lavatory, the couches, even the servers weaving by way of the gang.

Nearby, a few influencers toggle between their telephones—Grindr’s grid of shirtless torsos, then over to Sniffies’ crowded map—seemingly scouting their subsequent transfer earlier than the evening is even over.

Outside, the yard stretches to almost 3 times the scale of the home, with sprawling lawns, a number of bars, and glowing Grindr logos mounted alongside the partitions. There’s even an ice sculpture.

I commerce social media suggestions with Tracy E. Gilchrist, greatest identified for “holding space” in the course of the Wicked press tour, because the sound of a shattering glass cuts by way of the evening.

I lastly make it to an outside bar close to an empty pool, the place males smoke cigarettes alongside its perimeter, solely to discover out they’ve run out of alcohol. The bartenders, frat guys who look about my age, appear shocked as a refrain of homosexual males reply in unison: “At least give us coke!”

Another line has shaped for the one open restroom—inside a sauna-like construction that additionally homes scorching tubs. Just a few individuals pose for pictures, however a lot of the males ready to use it, some slipping into stalls with as many as 5 individuals without delay, look visibly embarrassed as reporters hover close by with cameras. I spot a Washington Post reporter interviewing a girl soaking her toes within the scorching tub, scribbling notes on an outsized pad.

By 11:45 PM, somebody who seems to work for the home—confirmed solely when he asks me on a date and tells me he “loves twinks”—begins telling everybody to depart instantly.

The crowd shifts into chaos. Gays start to play phone, passing alongside rumors of after-parties. Groups round me debate whether or not to head to Crush Dance Bar or Trade.

By 11:58 PM, I’m again out entrance. The line is gone, changed by small teams of males lingering on the curb, ready for the subsequent factor—get together favors, rides, hookups, new plans. Many commerce telephones.

For all of the buildup, the evening ends like every other homosexual get together: individuals arriving to be seen, solely to depart searching for one thing else—one other man, one other room, one other model of the identical evening. The get together got here and went as shortly as a Grindr hookup.

Editorial Fellow

Tristan Espinoza joined Washingtonian as an Editorial Fellow in 2026. A proud Osage Native from Dallas, Texas, he’s pursuing a Master of Fine Arts in Creative Writing (Nonfiction) at American University. He is a graduate of Columbia University and the London School of Economics. He lives in Mount Pleasant.

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